We’ve just found out about our pregnancy – when should we tell our family and friends?
Telling friends and relatives is an exciting time, but it is really down to personal preference and individual circumstances when you do it. Many women wait until they have had their first scan at around 12 weeks, before announcing their first pregnancy. The main reason for this is that the chances of miscarriage are higher leading up to this time. (80% of miscarriages occur in the first trimester) 1 If you tell no-one, then you won’t to have to break the sad news, alternatively you may value support and understanding at this time and would prefer people to know.
Sometimes circumstances dictate that you tell people earlier, especially if early pregnancy symptoms are very pronounced from the offset.
For others they find that waiting a little longer to share the news allows them and their partner more time to adapt to the idea of impending parenthood without constant ‘advice’ from friends and relatives.
It is really up to you and your partner to discuss the circumstances and decide on a time that is best for you, and whether you keep it to close family and friends to start with, or just tell the whole world!
1 Oxford handbook of Midwifery, 2006, chapter 8, Recognition and management of pathological conditions during pregnancy. Bleeding in early pregnancy.